Listening to: Life’s What You Make It – Miley Cirus
I just heard a story of a girl who lives in an unhappy family. Yeah, how could she is happy since her parents have lived in separate way? Moreover, she hates their parent not just about their divorce, but the way they think and behave. She is so weary about her life. She announced that her bad attitude is also inherited from them. But, honestly, I noticed she’s some kind of uncannily bizarre and temperamental while she’s an opened-mind and friendly all of sort, I daresay. And hey, she’s so pretty and lovely, though. But girl, I wonder if you ever happened to count your good characters you inherited from your parents.
She put all the blame for her miserable life on her parents.
Do you think it is right?
Partly, yes.
Anything that our parents do can be passed onto us, but it’s not a blueprint, your life is yours and what you make out of it is entirely up to you. When you think about all that you’ve inherited from your parents, the first traits that spring to mind are probably the physical ones. Your mother’s thick curly hair, your father’s big or small mouth, Mum’s legs, Dad’s nose… the list goes on. But have you ever considered the less obvious characteristics? You may have inherited your mum’s physique, but girl, did you pick up her temper too? What can you do to change them? Think about it.
A lot of people talk about their upbringing with anger, “I don’t like the way my mother did this, so I’m not going to be like her at all.” and saying, “My mother made mistakes and this is what I learned from them”.
For a large chunk of their lives, it’s mothers who have the greatest influence over their children. Remember, they provide us with unconditional love. You didn’t realize and appreciate about the luxury they have given, but you critical them instead? You just give the expressing disapproval of them, why girl?
Some people focus on their mother’s flaws and think, “I never want to be like that”. You know girl, you should be able to recognize that your mum has tried to be the best parent possible and it’s a part of emotional maturity that you should not forget to think of. If you don’t agree with it, perhaps you should think, “That’s how Mum did it, but I won’t make the same choice”.
Anyways, changing your destiny entirely begins with you. You should be more self-awareness. You need to understand who you are, how you function, and what resources you can use to create best-happiest-version of you. While we unconsciously take in messages, behaviors, values and at attitude from observing our environment, acknowledging the bits you don’t like or agree with is the first step in the right direction. Ask yourself, “What do I want to be doing differently?” If you live in a family where the behaviors you pursue feed the problem, decide that you’re going to bust those habits. You can control your life, can’t you?
You should be able to make your choice. Realizing that you don’t have to follow the examples set by your parents, means you’re free to live life exactly how you’d like, and with no-one to answer to. As a kid, you think that everything your parents do is right and we assume it’s the only way to behave or react to a situation. Then you become a teenager and young adult, and move into a phase where you think everything they do is wrong, partially because you want to dissociate from your parents as a way of gaining the approval of peers. And it doesn’t stop there. As you gain more life experience it’s expected that you’ll question all that comes your way and make decisions based on your own research. It’s up to you to turn unfavorable situations into positive ones, isn’t it? If you’re serious about doing things your ways, it’s helpful to surround yourself with as much information as possible. Hang around people who lead the life you lead and learn to develop behaviors and skills associated with this person by look at how they do things differently to your immediate family members.
Hey, let’s be different. Some people grow up thinking, “I’m doomed because I come from a broken family” or “My fate is sealed because of my lower-class background”, but instead of thinking their future has been pre-determined, they need to train their destinies. In order to move forward, give yourself permission to be different. Let’s think about children of divorce family, for example. Most of them believe that the solution to the problem is ending the relationship, because that’s what their parents did. But it doesn’t mean you need to go down the same route, right? You’re not them and you’re the only one who can ask and answer, “How do I want my life to be, to pan out?”
Being aware of your thought patterns can also help to cheat your emotional response and replace unsteady ideas with constructive ones. If there’s a substance abuse issue in your family, you need to develop new social groups to know how they lead their life. Similarly, people who have depression in their families should reevaluate their lives daily and ask, “What are the five best things that happened to me today?” This can help to alter perceptions and encourage positive thinking. And finally, don’t hang out onto your family history as justification of your future. Observe the past and use it to learn from, but don’t let it map out your life.
Life is full of choices and they are all yours to make, like one of the song I’m listening just now from Miley Cirus, Life’s what you make it. Hey, I love Miley just now. 
But I do understand that Said Would Be Easy Than Done, sometimes we just hardly make things out our mind, in reality, even me, myself, in some degree. All in all, these are just some ideas I could come up with. However, go! go! Girl! Dourl kom ngerb!!!! Lolzz
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